Gay-marriage is now settled law. How did we get here? Pastors, Priests, Rabbis, Imams, Minsters, Rebbes, Bishops, Cardinals and other leaders of our various sacred institutions didn’t stand up, lock arms and declare to the world that marriage is a sacrament, is an inherently religious and sacred covenant to be defined by our various sacred orders, according to how these orders understand their sacred writings, traditions, teachings and doctrines.
This issue is probably going to merit many pieces on my blog, like Ferguson did last year. For now here are some more thoughts.
Marriage is a sacred institution; secular courts and legislatures have no business imposing themselves in it.
If the Southern Baptist Convention and Orthodox Judaism want to define marriage as one man, on woman, no one should stop them. If the Unitarian Universalists, the Presbyterian Church USA, or Reform Judaism want to have a different definition, no one should stop that either.
My friends in the LGBT community and their straight supporters have argued gay-marriage to me on basis of rights of inheritance, next-of-kin, visitation in hospitals, pension benefits, health plans and a host of other inherently secular concerns. Those problems could all be solved with powers of attorney or a secular union. Marriage, as a sacred institution is not primarily concerned with such matters. Marriage is about a man and a woman consecrating their exclusive relationship in the sight of the Divine. Our various sacred leaders should have looked away from their book sales numbers, television ratings, weekly tithe receipts — and figuring out how to stand up in the face of a national health care law demanding they violate the tenets of their faiths — long enough to wrest marriage back into the realm of the sacred. If the state, or county wants to have a secular union to merge property and finances and establish next of kin, etc; let them do that. Those are secular matters that our sacred leaders equally have no say in.
And I say this as a divorced father. I will continue to fellowship and attend worship in congregations that understand marriage as one man/ on woman. To be remarried to a woman, I would gladly forgo a synagogue wedding if that’s what the rabbis decided. Preserving the institution of marriage is bigger than my personal desires, emotional needs and quest for dignity.
And these are my own views not necessarily shared by the National Guard, Dept of the Army or DoD.